Many people can 'say', but few are willing to 'hear'. And if we want to go back to the law of nature, we should have to listen more than talk. Is not God gave us two ears and only one mouth? :-)
Likewise, if we see the newborn. First auditory function than others. So why listen more difficult than speaking?
Although invisible to hear is an easy thing, but in fact many people prefer to listen rather than listen.
Listening is an essential part of determining effective communication. Without the ability to hear the good, will usually appear a lot of problems.
What often happens, we feel that we are most true. We are not interested in hearing opinions that differ and depend only on our way.
Always feel right, most competent, and never make mistakes
ough ... maybe angel! :-)
If we always feel that we are correct, and we're the most appropriate way, that means we never listen.
Ideas and our opinions are very difficult to change if the facts do not support our beliefs. Even if there are any facts we may only just glanced at it.
Maybe this time we are comfortable with the way we are, but for a long period of time, people will resist and resent us.
If we want to start listening to other people, then one day we will realize our mistakes. The answer to overcome this trait is to hone skills active listening.
Hearing is not always with the mouth shut, but it also involves our active participation. Good to hear not expect the coming turn to speak.
Listening is a commitment to understanding the other person talks and our feelings. It is also a form of appreciation that what other people are talking about is beneficial to us. At the same time we are also biased to take maximum benefit from the talks.
Art of listening can build a relationship. If we do well, people will be attracted to us and we will be more harmonious interaction.
The following simple techniques that can be practiced by the Companions with the very natural to be a good listener:
Likewise, if we see the newborn. First auditory function than others. So why listen more difficult than speaking?
Although invisible to hear is an easy thing, but in fact many people prefer to listen rather than listen.
Listening is an essential part of determining effective communication. Without the ability to hear the good, will usually appear a lot of problems.
What often happens, we feel that we are most true. We are not interested in hearing opinions that differ and depend only on our way.
Always feel right, most competent, and never make mistakes
ough ... maybe angel! :-)
If we always feel that we are correct, and we're the most appropriate way, that means we never listen.
Ideas and our opinions are very difficult to change if the facts do not support our beliefs. Even if there are any facts we may only just glanced at it.
Maybe this time we are comfortable with the way we are, but for a long period of time, people will resist and resent us.
If we want to start listening to other people, then one day we will realize our mistakes. The answer to overcome this trait is to hone skills active listening.
Hearing is not always with the mouth shut, but it also involves our active participation. Good to hear not expect the coming turn to speak.
Listening is a commitment to understanding the other person talks and our feelings. It is also a form of appreciation that what other people are talking about is beneficial to us. At the same time we are also biased to take maximum benefit from the talks.
Art of listening can build a relationship. If we do well, people will be attracted to us and we will be more harmonious interaction.
The following simple techniques that can be practiced by the Companions with the very natural to be a good listener:
1. Maintain good eye contact with.
This indicates to the listener about the openness and sincerity of our
This indicates to the listener about the openness and sincerity of our
2. Lean forward. This shows our interest in the subject.
This method will also remind us to have another sudat view, ie not just focus on ourselves.
3. Create questions
when there are things that need clarification or new information that we need to investigate from our speaker.
4. Create a distraction talks
Interesting. This can make the conversations more lively and not monotonous.
Interesting. This can make the conversations more lively and not monotonous.
5. Cuplik or reset some of the words spoken by our speaker.
This shows that we really listen well to memorize a few snippets of words.
This shows that we really listen well to memorize a few snippets of words.
6. Make a commitment to understand what he says, even though we dislike or anger.
From here we will find out the values that we applied the other person, which may differ from the values that we apply.
By trying to understand, so we'll find a bias point of view, insight, perception or a new awareness, which does not occur to us earlier.From here we will find out the values that we applied the other person, which may differ from the values that we apply.
A good listener is actually almost as interesting as a good conversationalist. If we are always in the correct pattern for a certain period, then one day we will feel the benefits.
The process might seem long and tedious, but eventually it will feel valuable efforts that we have done. We will feel better about ourselves, our relationships, our friends, our children, and jobs.
Conclusion: Be a good listener, because these properties may be key to developing a positive mind, and is one of the Companions ladder to achieve success! :-)
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